Shanna: Saw you today on Andrew D's YouTube video and just now pouring through your posts. Likely will take you up on the 1-hour discussion (12-18 months out from PT). Your comments hit home - divorced, tried online dating (I'm at 5' 6", but even the shortest of women at 60-ish are pining for a tall, handsome, romantic, cowboy gentleman partner? Get a grip!) Nonetheless, a minimalistic, non-materialistic, stoic, grateful life is a beautiful thing. Life should be an interesting adventure - paired or not - every moment savored. Hope to talk soon. Thanks again for your post.
Lovely piece. I am currently paired up but more of my life has been just me, myself and I, and I was quite happy that way. So often it seems like people let themselves be convinced that they need to value being in a committed relationship no matter the costs (same thing goes for having children). I think it’s a gift to be comfortable with yourself by yourself and that doesn’t mean you are unable to be open to a romantic relationship if the right person(s) come along. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t, sometimes they do but are a good fit for your life only for a short time.
Oh Shanna, I love your work...and with this one I see we are most likely related! After a 26 year relationship with someone that I thought was the one even though we lead different lives, we were great with that. Upon putting our house on the market to move to Portugal he informed me he was moving to Tampa Fl. I was blind sided and shocked, tears of of a quite life with him watching sunsets in the Algrave caused stains upon my face. I too have quirks that many find odd but not off putting. I'm neat with my home but not my office, my dog(s) just lost one, are the most important thing that makes my world turn. A good day or night with my dog(s) alone and some slow jazz is nirvana for me. I find that also in my friendships I'm not always willing to jump to meet them when they want and it is ok to decline. Even if they are not so happy with my decision. I know after almost a year alone, I find that I am my best company and do whatever I want whenever I want...although I miss my ex immensely I now know that I can survive without that feeling that I am responsible for someone else's happiness! And that one is not defined by the accompanied "other half, partner", or other connection to make someone complete. Clog on my girlfriend!
I really enjoyed reading this, I always enjoy your writing! I particularly love your use of the English language I just wish I could do the same!! Anyway, it doesn't matter a jot whether you enjoy the same things that I do. Makes no difference whatsoever that you prefer a more calming, sedentary lifestyle! Although I'm now preferring a very similar, low voltage existence due to my getting older and suffering the usual aches & pains that go with ageing!! (On Christmas day about 9 pm, I'll probably prefer a cup of tea & an early night rather than drinking myself into oblivion that I always felt was the 'done' thing when I was much younger!!) I'm going off on a tangent now, I'll have to stop doing that because I usually end up completely forgetting what I was talking about in the first place! What was I talking about?! I'm not one of these people who think I have a divine right to tell others how to live their lives, never have!! I fail to understand the need for manipulating people into behaving the way that they themselves never seem to do!! So, you just carry on Shanna, living your life how you want to, single or otherwise, enjoy yourself as I'm sure it's none of mine or anyone else's business!! xx Take care! xx
This may be my most favorite piece of yours this far. yet I’m a very much longtime married person who constantly reexamines my internal and external lives, relationships ( the marriage especially!) and any damn thing my ADHD- brain restlessly ponders. I’m a professional scribe myself ( veteran journalist) . Truthfully, you nailed both style and content here: beautifully-rendered prose, deeply-resonating candor.
I greatly identify with this life examined so you not alone. I don't like crowded places or noisy with bright lights. The only sport I do is swimming and walking in nature. Ah and vegan also. Just don't have a pet yet and have a boss ☺️
Shanna: Saw you today on Andrew D's YouTube video and just now pouring through your posts. Likely will take you up on the 1-hour discussion (12-18 months out from PT). Your comments hit home - divorced, tried online dating (I'm at 5' 6", but even the shortest of women at 60-ish are pining for a tall, handsome, romantic, cowboy gentleman partner? Get a grip!) Nonetheless, a minimalistic, non-materialistic, stoic, grateful life is a beautiful thing. Life should be an interesting adventure - paired or not - every moment savored. Hope to talk soon. Thanks again for your post.
Lovely piece. I am currently paired up but more of my life has been just me, myself and I, and I was quite happy that way. So often it seems like people let themselves be convinced that they need to value being in a committed relationship no matter the costs (same thing goes for having children). I think it’s a gift to be comfortable with yourself by yourself and that doesn’t mean you are unable to be open to a romantic relationship if the right person(s) come along. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t, sometimes they do but are a good fit for your life only for a short time.
Precisely!
I saw myself, in each word, comma and period.
Thank you for summarizing the state of being single and an introvert.
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Oh Shanna, I love your work...and with this one I see we are most likely related! After a 26 year relationship with someone that I thought was the one even though we lead different lives, we were great with that. Upon putting our house on the market to move to Portugal he informed me he was moving to Tampa Fl. I was blind sided and shocked, tears of of a quite life with him watching sunsets in the Algrave caused stains upon my face. I too have quirks that many find odd but not off putting. I'm neat with my home but not my office, my dog(s) just lost one, are the most important thing that makes my world turn. A good day or night with my dog(s) alone and some slow jazz is nirvana for me. I find that also in my friendships I'm not always willing to jump to meet them when they want and it is ok to decline. Even if they are not so happy with my decision. I know after almost a year alone, I find that I am my best company and do whatever I want whenever I want...although I miss my ex immensely I now know that I can survive without that feeling that I am responsible for someone else's happiness! And that one is not defined by the accompanied "other half, partner", or other connection to make someone complete. Clog on my girlfriend!
I really enjoyed reading this, I always enjoy your writing! I particularly love your use of the English language I just wish I could do the same!! Anyway, it doesn't matter a jot whether you enjoy the same things that I do. Makes no difference whatsoever that you prefer a more calming, sedentary lifestyle! Although I'm now preferring a very similar, low voltage existence due to my getting older and suffering the usual aches & pains that go with ageing!! (On Christmas day about 9 pm, I'll probably prefer a cup of tea & an early night rather than drinking myself into oblivion that I always felt was the 'done' thing when I was much younger!!) I'm going off on a tangent now, I'll have to stop doing that because I usually end up completely forgetting what I was talking about in the first place! What was I talking about?! I'm not one of these people who think I have a divine right to tell others how to live their lives, never have!! I fail to understand the need for manipulating people into behaving the way that they themselves never seem to do!! So, you just carry on Shanna, living your life how you want to, single or otherwise, enjoy yourself as I'm sure it's none of mine or anyone else's business!! xx Take care! xx
This may be my most favorite piece of yours this far. yet I’m a very much longtime married person who constantly reexamines my internal and external lives, relationships ( the marriage especially!) and any damn thing my ADHD- brain restlessly ponders. I’m a professional scribe myself ( veteran journalist) . Truthfully, you nailed both style and content here: beautifully-rendered prose, deeply-resonating candor.
You're a real hoot, Shanna! I loved this! 'Sounds like you're good at being...YOU! Keep up the good work!
I greatly identify with this life examined so you not alone. I don't like crowded places or noisy with bright lights. The only sport I do is swimming and walking in nature. Ah and vegan also. Just don't have a pet yet and have a boss ☺️