Shanna, I enjoyed reading about your recent journey to Porto and your willingness to share your struggles. It’s a shame that the owner of the Airbnb didn’t deliver a cleaner product or service to you. That’s so unjust and this type of experience can get anyone upset and even get you feeling off the rails. But you did your best to clean and improve your environment and make it a more comfortable place to stay which is awesome. It was smart to return to the Lisbon area to pick up Milo; I’m sure he will help to pick up your spirits again. I agree completely with some of the other comments about “sunken costs” and also that you are never alone. I have observed that your life is centered around giving to others and having a shared experience and so love and support is always there for you in your community; especially because of who you are and how much you give to others. Whether you decide to stay in Porto or return to Setubal, there is no wrong decision here. All the best and hope you enjoy getting to know Porto for as long as you choose to stay. Take care, Bill
Hi Shanna, very wise words from you yet again! You're very intelligent and caring and I could list one hell of a lot more adjectives to describe you! I must mention Milo first! What a lovely picture of him that you posted, he is definitely a little sweetheart! You can see at a glance how much love and companionship he gives you! He's so cute!! Anyway, you might stay in Porto a while longer?! That's the beauty of the life you lead, you can pick and choose where to lay your head each night which is great! It's a beautiful country, loving all the lovely photos you post on here! Never visited although we lived in Southern Spain for nine years but never took the opportunity to travel over the border! Big mistake!! Looking forward to see what you decide to do this summer, I bet the weather is hotting up nicely?! I miss the weather except for July and August which I never enjoyed!! Take care Shanna, you have your little friend by your side now so life will be much better now! Hugs! xx
hi shanna. Sorry you are intermittently suffering. Google an economics term “sunk costs”. Thinking about sunk costs often helps me in situations like yours. The basic implication is that the money you’ve spent is already gone but there is no need to waste anything more, like your time, if you are unhappy. For example, you’ve paid to see a movie and it’s BAD. The money is gone but you can still save your time. However, having said that, sometimes change is hard for me. If I can just stick it out for awhile I’ll feel better eventually. Having Milo will help. Hope you feel better soon and enjoy your time in Porto.
Shanna, I am sorry for your panic attack, this is not fun, and I understand about being with Milo. Feeling alone while being anxious is a killer. The back and worth with the can I leave, but cannot because I spend the money is a vicious game that your mind plays with you. Staying and being miserable is the same as leaving in my opinion because you do not enjoy where you are so in fact you are not there. I am glad you took the wise decision to come back and pick up Milo. We get attached to those little sucker. My dog is 18 and 1/2 and I know with all his pathologies he is in palliative care. I am trying to prepare myself and to tell you the truth we both fight for us to stay together a bit longer. However, I promise myself that soon he will start suffering, I will make the decision. It will be heartbreaking but I will. The fact is us woman are a lot stronger than we think and we know to make wise decisions, it is just that we doubt, and that lack of trust is what creates for me anxiety. However, looking back at my life, I can see that I always overcame tough situations, and if I am still alive at my age, it is because I was capable to go through difficult decisions and situations even in anxious states. Rationally, it is there, emotionally my question is when will I start to have better trust in my capacity?
Is Socialization the culprit? Maybe...
Anyway, enjoy your time in Porto. Take your time and reassure yourself that you are in security with friends all around here in Portugal and even in Porto.
Shanna, I enjoyed reading about your recent journey to Porto and your willingness to share your struggles. It’s a shame that the owner of the Airbnb didn’t deliver a cleaner product or service to you. That’s so unjust and this type of experience can get anyone upset and even get you feeling off the rails. But you did your best to clean and improve your environment and make it a more comfortable place to stay which is awesome. It was smart to return to the Lisbon area to pick up Milo; I’m sure he will help to pick up your spirits again. I agree completely with some of the other comments about “sunken costs” and also that you are never alone. I have observed that your life is centered around giving to others and having a shared experience and so love and support is always there for you in your community; especially because of who you are and how much you give to others. Whether you decide to stay in Porto or return to Setubal, there is no wrong decision here. All the best and hope you enjoy getting to know Porto for as long as you choose to stay. Take care, Bill
Hi Shanna, very wise words from you yet again! You're very intelligent and caring and I could list one hell of a lot more adjectives to describe you! I must mention Milo first! What a lovely picture of him that you posted, he is definitely a little sweetheart! You can see at a glance how much love and companionship he gives you! He's so cute!! Anyway, you might stay in Porto a while longer?! That's the beauty of the life you lead, you can pick and choose where to lay your head each night which is great! It's a beautiful country, loving all the lovely photos you post on here! Never visited although we lived in Southern Spain for nine years but never took the opportunity to travel over the border! Big mistake!! Looking forward to see what you decide to do this summer, I bet the weather is hotting up nicely?! I miss the weather except for July and August which I never enjoyed!! Take care Shanna, you have your little friend by your side now so life will be much better now! Hugs! xx
hi shanna. Sorry you are intermittently suffering. Google an economics term “sunk costs”. Thinking about sunk costs often helps me in situations like yours. The basic implication is that the money you’ve spent is already gone but there is no need to waste anything more, like your time, if you are unhappy. For example, you’ve paid to see a movie and it’s BAD. The money is gone but you can still save your time. However, having said that, sometimes change is hard for me. If I can just stick it out for awhile I’ll feel better eventually. Having Milo will help. Hope you feel better soon and enjoy your time in Porto.
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Shanna, I am sorry for your panic attack, this is not fun, and I understand about being with Milo. Feeling alone while being anxious is a killer. The back and worth with the can I leave, but cannot because I spend the money is a vicious game that your mind plays with you. Staying and being miserable is the same as leaving in my opinion because you do not enjoy where you are so in fact you are not there. I am glad you took the wise decision to come back and pick up Milo. We get attached to those little sucker. My dog is 18 and 1/2 and I know with all his pathologies he is in palliative care. I am trying to prepare myself and to tell you the truth we both fight for us to stay together a bit longer. However, I promise myself that soon he will start suffering, I will make the decision. It will be heartbreaking but I will. The fact is us woman are a lot stronger than we think and we know to make wise decisions, it is just that we doubt, and that lack of trust is what creates for me anxiety. However, looking back at my life, I can see that I always overcame tough situations, and if I am still alive at my age, it is because I was capable to go through difficult decisions and situations even in anxious states. Rationally, it is there, emotionally my question is when will I start to have better trust in my capacity?
Is Socialization the culprit? Maybe...
Anyway, enjoy your time in Porto. Take your time and reassure yourself that you are in security with friends all around here in Portugal and even in Porto.